Quarantine Dating Survival Guide – Part 3 – Listen To Your Single Friend

In Part 1 of the series we talking about Meeting Guys and keeping hope alive:

If you are looking for a connection, wanting to date actively, and/or ready to meet the one: you should not be using the pandemic as an excuse to give up on dating. It’s not harder per se. It just requires a little more thought, a positive attitude, and some creativity, a pivot if you will. Think about it this way: there are men out there who were looking for connections, partnerships, etc prior to the pandemic. Just like you, they still want to date and the pandemic has not changed that. Your mindset hasn’t shifted and there are men out there just as frustrated and just as hopeful that they can still find magic during this time. All is not lost!

In Part 2 of the series we discussed Planning Dates and getting creative with your new interests.

Now that you’ve been making connections, what happens when you start dating consistently?

Quarantine Dating Survival Guide – Part 3

Active Dating:

Make your expectations crystal clear. If you have none, that’s great. If you want something serious let it be known. Some people are just looking for companionship right now to pass the time until the outside is open again. That’s okay, but if you are looking for more (or less) you need to be clear. It’s okay to walk away if you aren’t on the same page for the sake of your feelings and the feelings of others.
Do not assume that you will hit it off in person just because you did virtually. Connections do not always carry the same via text vs phone vs facetime vs in person. Some people are consistent but not everyone emits the same exact energy across all platforms of communication. Having great banter with someone on the phone may not translate the same way in person. It is frustrating and disappointing, but it happens. But do not forget that this applies vice versa as well. Just because someone is not super exciting via text, an app, or on the phone doesn’t mean they wont be in real life. Some people are just way more engaging in person. Be flexible and don’t write them off so quickly.
Let things progress naturally. When you have been single for a while and you meet a great new guy, getting to the good stuff is awesome: movie date nights, long conversations until the AM, and physical intimacy. But don’t jump the gun here. Rushing an emotional connection for any reason can have you missing important signs of character and emotional availability of your new date. Red flags are not for decoration and you can miss them if you get too ahead of yourself. Let the vibes flow – there’s no need to put pressure on your romantic interests too quickly.
Keep your options open. You are averaging maybe one or two virtual or in-person dates a week with this great new guy. It is not “too much work” to see one or two more guys during the week though. It’s really important that you do not stop trying to date others because its going well with one because you are still single. He has to prove he is worthy of the number one spot, he should not get it by default.

Hope you enjoyed these tips and tricks to dating during the pandemic. Stay safe and have fun!

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